The Happiness Quilt: Part 2

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The Happiness Quilt is your gift for me and my gift back to you this Holiday Season. Do go out there and contribute your piece if you have not already done so. That page will be a place of Happiness, now and forever. Ramkumar said it beautifully in his comment actually …. and he also revealed the secret power of the Happiness Quilt -

I hovered over my piece -it said “Ramkumar laughs a lot, has no worries about ego, is completely in the moment and content” - and I thought to myself - “I wish!” ;-)) Guess that is the point, right? This is a reminder of what makes me -and everyone - happy. When I’m feeling low, I’ll come visit here.

It was quite an experience for me as I read the comments on the original post and put the quilt together.  I could not help but think of how much happiness there is in each one of us already - it seems that we just lose sight of it sometimes. It is beautiful to see so many people reflecting on what makes them happy - on the inside. So thank YOU!

What do we do with the Happiness Quilt now?

The Happiness Quilt is just what it is - a quilt - an experience while we sew it and a beautiful tool for the future. In short, use it for warmth and reflect on what it means …

Suggested Applications for the Quilt

1. Quick hack for long term happiness:

Now that we have done the work to find what our happiness qualities are, here is how to use them.  If you look into the basic ThinkMaya framework, I suggest that most of the unhappiness and imbalance in our lives comes from the heart, head and body being out of sync …being in disagreement and causing internal turmoil. In these cases no matter what you do for yourself externally, it is impossible to really feel better for the long term.  At such times, use the Happiness Quilt as a tool, as a happiness hack, to get back your heart, head and body into sync and get on the road to happiness for the long term (For real long term changes, use the ThinkMaya Framework, Part 3). This hack is for the times when you feel so low and are bogged down so much that you really cannot think clear or are too conflicted - you do not feel good enough to think and apply the ThinkMaya Framework( or do too much of any thinking).

Consider a time when you are feeling really low. Before you can start to spiral down the path to feeling worse, look into your toolbox and grab the Happiness Quilt! And then:

• Right there you will look into the quilt and see what are the things that make you happy at the happiest times in your life.
• Pick 1, 2 or all all of your qualities.
• Don’t sit there and think about the happy times. This works sometimes, but it could send you down the path of self pity and endless excuses. I strongly believe that you do not tackle emotions with emotions cause. They are more easily tackled by actions.
• Then choose an activity that will make help you bring out one or more of your happiness qualities.
• And then go engage in the activity without thinking much. Just do it.

Very soon you should be in a happier place. (A lot of people already do this inherently but this tool could prove effective when your spontaneous defense systems give in ). Once you are in a better place you could start to really think (sanely and with head on your shoulders) about any long term issues that you might be struggling with.

2. Quick Check for life decisions:

When you choose long term career paths and make life choices, do a check by seeing if the choice will continue to let your Happiness qualities flow freely. If you are a lover of nature and you choose a stressful job that forces you to commute through the city and work in an office with no windows, it is more than likely that you will be unhappy on a day to day basis . If your qualities cannot be in the flow then, most often than not, your choice will probably make you unhappy in the longer term.

3. Building a family quilt:

This one is my favorite! Build one like this for your family and when you make big choices that affect your family, do a check to make sure it will continue to keep the happiness qualities of the family in flow.

4. Just get inspired by it:

If you have been a little unhappy, a little low for no reason, just spend some time at the quilt. How amazing and inspiring! People find happiness in their most insignificant qualities. It is wonderful really. There is no formula for happiness - it is something we create for ourselves. And learning what makes us happy and being aware of it might be the one big secret !

I want to take a minute to wish everyone a wonderful year in 2009!

I hope the year gone by has been one of inspiration for you. Good and bad is immaterial - good and bad occurs in the past - and it is all good if we take some inspiration from it. So take one last look at the past with the eyes of the future …. what you see will always be a story of hope and beauty …

Many things happened this past year. I quit my job, moved cross country and started working for myself. Friends and family are now even farther physically …. but just last night, as I engaged in my daily meditation , all I could think of was the new friend I have this year. My 2 year old is a whole new person - thinking, talking, sharing, loving friend of mine.  I have a very special friend now. Certainly the highlight for me  this past year …..

What was the highlight of YOUR life this past year?

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I love happiness and I love pictures. So here goes -

To be truly happy we need to focus on quality - on the region of overlap.To be truly happy, we need to be pushing these circles closer and not spend energy on necessarily making them bigger. Makes sense?

Might explain how people with much less money and much fewer relationships seem infinitely happier than those with LOTS of money

Enjoy and do not forget to share YOUR thoughts on this matter!

And while you are at it, do not forget to contribute to my Happiness Quilt Project

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My recent post about integrity was an amazing learning experience for me. I am truly grateful to everyone that participated in this discussion. The purpose of my post was served. To my surprise a lot more happened … I discovered a few things about the world and myself.

Every time I saw a comment I had a strong urge to jump back into the discussion in order to learn more about the person’s point of view and get into an intellectually charged argument. But I refrained from the fear of turning it into a battle of emotions and principles. I figured that I would much rather enjoy seeing the perspectives of other people and picking up on what ever I could learn from them. I did and I really enjoyed it.

My attitude seemed kind of boring but the more I thought about it, the more I realized that perhaps this characteristic of mine is what contributes to a lot of the happiness in my life. I do not seek people like me or that necessarily have a liking for me, but I seem to seek people and experiences that “teach” me. I love to explore and learn. It does not disturb me when I meet people that have incredibly different opinions/principles than I do. I usually respond with awe when someone tells me something that I had never thought of before …and that eventually results in learning.( Of course, there are exceptions - these relationships turn out to be exceptional only when the tolerance and learning is mutual - I do fight/flee when mutual respect is lacking).

The more I think back into my life, the more of this pattern I see. The happiest times in my life have been times of exploration and learning for me. Times when I have had a solid goal that involved learning and gone after it. Times when I have not had to worry about what I do/say every minute - when I have let my passion flow through for a cause/goal I believe. Over the years, I have learned to forgive my mistakes and focus my energy forward.  As I saw this pattern emerge in my brain I started to think that If I weaved the “happiness quilt” of my life, this would be the pattern that would repeat - learning, exploration, passion. When life gets hard and I start to slip, my quickest way to bounce back is to set a goal and go for it - through exploration and learning. I do not know if the characteristics are good or bad by themselves (really, they could be either), but I do know that they are good for ME.

The Happiness Quilt Project

And then I started to wonder what patterns other people see in their Happiness Quilts. Around the time I also saw the 100 Squares for Christmas at Oktober5’s blog. I put the two together and thought about how wonderful it would be if we all sewed the Happiness Quilt together.  I envision it will look something like this - it is a gratitude wall I have on my other blog.

So, what do we do now ?

I need you to find the pattern on your quilt

What does the pattern on your happiness quilt look like? I am curious. If you think back to the happiest times in your life, do you see a pattern emerge? It could be relationships, career, writing, reading, helping …..What is it about you that makes you so happy during your happy times?? Thanks to Tom Volkar for a very similar process he used to help me find my strengths.

Finding the pattern: Think about the times in your life that you have been the happiest. Think about why you felt so happy - was it an event, an accomplishment, a relationship? Slowly, move on to thinking about the kind of person you were while you felt so happy. What did those happy times bring out in you? What were the qualities about YOURSELF that you were celebrating during the happiest times of your life?

Think about the various happy times in your life and what characteristics they brought out in you. Do you see a pattern? Are there 3-4 qualities that come up over and over again?

That is it. If you have done a good job of traveling inwards, you should have the “things” about yourself that make you happy. (When you make a choice in life, make a quick check to see if the choice you just made brings out those 3 or 4 things about you …if yes, chances are you are making a “happy” choice - but let us talk about that in another post)

I need you to give me a piece of of your Happiness pattern

Share what you found in that process - on your blog as a post, on this post as a comment or in an email to me. I will need the following:

• A picture - like your gravatar
• A link of your choice - to your blog, to an article or a pretty picture - anything
• Your Happiness characteristics - 3 or 4 of them
• Optional - A short story(3-4 lines) to put your characteristics in context.

If create a  blog post make sure you link it back here.

• Feel free to make submissions for other members of your family or your friends too. You will see you own private quilt emerge and it will be a wonderful tool for you to make “happy” decisions/choices for the family!

And then I will sow it together

I will put it all together on a separate tab on this blog.

And we all can share it.

I will give you the quilt or I will give you a link so you can share this on your blog. I will share my code as well, if you want to implement something like this someplace else - any way we can share it, I will.

Why is it cool?

• It will grow - always. It will be a tab on my blog - always. A place to be surrounded by Happiness.
• You need not be a blogger to participate. You are here and you love happiness.
• It will be an experience for now and a tool for the future. What better than to find stories of happiness from around the world in one place.
• Personally for me, it is a great way to honor you all and “know” the thinkmaya community better.

I look forward to hearing from you! I want to have a substantial quilt for the new year, so I appreciate early submissions

Please forward it to friends/family and have them participate - the exercise is the really important part of the experience - so share that with people as well. And I really appreciate if you could stumble/digg/tweet this post. Thank you!

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For good or bad, happiness has become a habit with me. I have had to learn it the hard way, though. In this post,  I share some of that journey … how I found happiness and why I stuck with it.

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Why do I call Happiness a habit?

Let me take a minute to explain why I call Happiness a habit with me. Like most habits, good or bad, basic happiness has become somewhat effortless for me. It does not take much thinking on my part.

The Good -

Yes, life calls for lot of hard-work, but it does get somewhat easier if we learn to make choices that make us happy along the way. Finding happiness along the way makes us resilient to hard times and struggles - and as strange as it might sound, a little happiness goes a long way in helping us find a lot of it. Given I do make wrong choices, I tend to give in, forgive myself quickly and move on - since that is what makes me happiest and able - to give to, care and provide for my children, while I move forward in life.

The not so good -

Sometimes, I wish I could just be sad and curl up in bed - but I need to get up and move on - for my kids. These are the times when I think happiness is exhausting.  However, the way I see it, we do not have all that many choices in life - choosing to be happy seems to be one of the better ones

And so, I realized, when I participated in my Business Discovery Course with Tom Volkar, that the latest choice I have made - my commitment to my start-up, is designed (by me) to bring me happiness - irrespective of whether I succeed or fail in the conventional sense. Below, in the slide show, I share the story of my life leading up to my start-up …

As I start a more challenging chapter in my life, I hope to remember, most of all, that I made this choice for happiness, more than anything. I hope to make the right choices along the way …and eventually reach yet another happy place in my life - amidst the struggles and hard work.

How do you make something a habit?

I do not know. I really don’t. And I can use your input on this one. Happiness became a habit for me after years of being miserable. After years of trying to be happy. With persistence. After discovering how being happy made my life so simple ….and as much as I like complicated “stuff”, I love how simple happiness makes my life.

Would you call happiness a habit? If yes, how did it become a habit in YOUR life? What choices have you made recently? Are they making you happy?

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This is a story a friend of mine shared with me yesterday. You might have heard it before, but I urge you to participate since I think it will be a lot of fun.

After a shipwreck, just a handful people survive. Clinging to dear life, they sail away  on 2 boats. One boat has a lady, the captain and an old man. The other boat has the lady’s fiance’ and a few other people.

Once the boat makes it to the island, the lady realizes that her fiance’s boat has not reached the same island. Perhaps they sailed off to the neighboring island? She is sad but determined to get her lover back. So she approaches the captain and requests him to fix their boat so that they can sail to the other island and find her lover. “Please, please”, she begs him.

Just having survived the shipwreck, the Captain has no desire to throw himself at the face of death all over again. But after much pleading he says, “Okay, I will do it. But you will have to sleep with me first”.

The lady is torn. She does not know what to do. She goes over to the other survivor - the old man and asks him what he thinks she should do. “Follow your heart, young lady. Just follow your heart”, he says.

The lady goes back and agrees to fulfill the Captain’s wish. The Captain then fixes the boat and they all sail away to the next island. The lady is estatic to find her lover there, alive and safe! They hug and kiss. Tears flow. She then tells her lover the whole story. The story really disturbs the lover. He is in shock. He is very upset. “Oh, how could you do this to me? I waited all alone for you, for so long…how could you tarnish what we have?”, he says, “I want nothing to do with you anymore!”.

The lady is in tears. The Captain feels terrible for the lady. He puts his arms around her and says, ” I am always here for you, if you ever need me.”

Okay, story done.

This is what you do now:

1. Now that you heard the story, who, amongst all the people in the story do you think has the  most integrity? Who do you think has the least integrity?

2. And why?

Share what you think in the comments. DO NOT read the comments before you have answered the questions above in your head!

3. Next, read the comments and see if you are influenced in any way. Does your decision change?

If you think you are absolutely right,I encourage you to make your case.

Why are we doing this?

The people in the story all made choices and decisions. And we judged them. Each one of their actions and our judgment is based on our individual value systems. Happiness is a result of our choices and our values. Happiness means different things to different people. We can all be happy, in very different ways. We can all make choices that are different from the choices made by the people we love, but that is okay. Our perspectives differ, our values differ and our lives differ. Making choices that our loved ones don’t necessarily make does not mean we do not love each other. It is an opportunity to understand and grow.

When I played this game with my friend I made my choices. And then he started to talk about his choices. It was amazing how my answers started to change when I started to see his perspective….even after I was so convinced with my own answers. Hopefully, you all will share what your initial reactions were and if your perspective changed when you saw a point of view that was different from yours ….

Thanks for playing!

When I sit down to tell my 2 year old a story, her eyes just light up. Within a minute, she is deeply immersed in the story. She listens to the story like she is listening to it for the first time … every time …

What is it about stories and little kids, I wonder?

pic by KoAn La Scrivana

And then it happens with ME too …

I am incredibly happy with my life these days. But even in the saddest of times, my tears roll down for someone else …when I read or watch a story about somebody else’s life. (Like when I watched the video on Lance’s post yesterday). Happy feelings too - like I felt incredibly special when I read this poem by Lucas Bright at Writer Dad’s blog. And then Eric’s guest post at Zenhabits brought back some memories of my own and filled me with a sense of gratitude for my life.

Time and again, the best bloggers will tell you share your stories on your blog. Entrepreneurs will tell you to give your story when you pitch an idea or you want to make a connection. Penelope Trunk angers a lot of her readers time and again, but then she also writes posts like this one and this. I disagree with her vehemently over and over again but then I love her a lot.

Why do stories work?

• Stories have nothing to do with me: Why do stories that have absolutely nothing to do with me or my life make such a  big impact on me? The answer is hidden in that question. When a story has nothing to do with me but is intense and engrossing, I insert myself in the story and come alive. I come alive and then flow along. I flow along and then start to feel. I feel the story and then I feel the story of my life. It is a beautiful process and it works - once, twice, every time. That is why I love stories. I figure that is why my 2 year old loves stories.

• Stories evoke emotions: We all build walls to protect ourselves from emotional abuse. We are all very guarded when it comes to feeling emotional about our own lives. No so when it comes to another person’s life, right? We can shed a tear and not feel weak. We can be moved and not seem emotional.




• Stories are stories: When we listen to stories, we rarely question it’s authenticity. When we start to read a story, little facts seem to matter … but rarely do they matter after a certain point. Real or fictitious, a story always has real effects on us, never fictitious.

• Stories are the best way to get you back to a “feeling” or a “state of mind”: When we feel certain negative or unwanted feelings, emotions or fears, it is not easy to just shoo them away. Stories are great in that they transport us  away so gently into a different world, where we can “feel” the right things without thinking as much about feeling the right things. (Complicated sentence there, sorry!)

Should I tell my story?

The whole point of this post is to try and convince everyone that we all need to find our stories. We then need to tell our stories. Tell our stories to ourselves and to the people in our lives. To our employers and to our friends. To the VC’s and to our kids.

Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. Everyone has skills. Everyone has goals and ambitions. Everyone has plans for success. Everyone has had their share of struggles.  So what is the big deal? Right? The big deal is the story that connects the dots. The story that brings all of the strengths, weaknesses, skills, goals, ambitions, plans and every crap under the sun together in a unique way and tells your special story. None of the adjectives in the story are unique, but somehow, almost magically, the story is special, very unique and only yours. This is what Naomi Dunford does. Read her story here and then come back and tell me if it did not do something to you.

So, go deep into yourselves and find your story. I urge you. And then, go out into the world and tell your story. Tell yourself your story every day, every single day. Believe in yourself and stay true to your story. Never ever forget your story. It is who you are. It is who you will always be. Special. Like Lucas Bright

We all have plenty of stories. What is your story? How has telling others and yourself your story changed your life?

What is my story?

I will come back and share my story in my next post here. If you have read my earlier posts, you already  know some of my stories.

Authentic Business Discovery

For now, I would like to take some time to talk about Tom Volkar’s Business Discovery Class that I participated in a couple of weeks ago. I am working on my internet based startup (details will be in the upcoming story) and was curious to see what the class would offer. The class was a wonderful experience! When I sat back and thought about what the class really gave me, I came up with this post. The class helped me find my story and tell my story

I have to say the journey was amazing. And it was not much unlike some of the most satisfying experiences in our lives – we do most of the work and we gain most of the satisfaction – only someone really cool(read Tom) steers us ever so lightly in the right direction, nudging us back on to our paths. In essence, this class was a wonderful journey, a refreshing experience and loads of hard work.  In a week’s time, my journey involved traveling inwards and outwards, back in time and ahead into the years that will follow. It gave me my story. Honestly, the class taught me very little I did not know, but what it really did was establish the vital connections – between my past and my future, between my values and my desires, between my dreams and the action steps required to fulfill them. Looking back, the connections are a key part of understanding ourselves. There will be plenty of times when I will be unsure, when I will question my past decisions and the future path I have laid out for myself, but understanding those connections will help me “reboot” myself and get focused.

Tom is a great guy. He is very experienced in his field. He gets involved without getting in your face. He makes you work hard and asks the right questions. And if you push him like I did, he gives you lots of tools to get to your goal. He is great at customizing his class and taking feedback too.This is a great class if you are trying to jump into doing something on your own. Do feel free to contact me if you would like to know more.

For now, I look forward to hearing your stories. What makes you who you are today? What is it you love about your life and why? Is there something about yourself you will never ever change?

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Tricia stopped by here a couple of days ago. I followed her back to her blog. And I read this - a story about her dog Zach and how he reminds her to breathe. That is when it occurred to me that it is high time I shared what my husband and I have learned from our dogs!

A few of years ago, Pree(my husband) and I set out to train the dogs. We went to training classes, read books, asked friends…. Now after a few years of that and plenty of dog training, we can say how much learning we got in the process.  Enjoy! And yes, Iris and Charlie send you all lots of doggy hugs!

Do you have dogs? Do you love dogs? What have they taught you, if anything at all?

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ThinkMaya has been chosen at the New Blog of The Week by Barbara at Blogging Without a Blog. I am excited about this and want to welcome everyone stopping by my blog!

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Starting this blog had been a long time dream and it felt great when I did. It felt wonderful, but not completely right yet. It was when people started to comment and share that I realized what I was missing. Knowing that I am being heard forms a big part of the fulfillment I get from this blog. The feedback on a post forms the bridge for me from one post to the next - an inspiration for new thoughts and learning.

I want to take this opportunity to thank everyone that has commented on my blog so far. I hope more people will share their thoughts on how my posts affect their lives and thinking, since I truly value that. I know a number of you have been around in the blog world for years - I welcome any sort of feedback and/or constructive criticism about this space.

And yes, if you like what you read here, please do subscribe to my blog. I do put in a lot of work into this blog. I promise to keep things interesting!

If you are short on time, I suggest you take a couple of minutes to see some slideshows accompanying some of my posts such as this one  for BlogActionDay and this one on the “thinkmaya Framework” for Happiness and Balance

And if you are in the Unites States today, please do get out and cast your vote! And come back and relax right here

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It is Diwali. Our festival of lights. It is the most beautiful festival I have ever witnessed. It is the time for the best food, rangoli and firecrackers. The joy of families getting together, the clean homes all ready and lit up, the pretty clothes, the yummy food and the thrill of the firecrackers! As kids, we graduated to bigger and better firecrackers every year … it was a time for teasing, challenging and showing off. It was never enough!

When I first moved out of India, a lot of what Diwali was for me was sacred memories. Festivals had to be celebrated the way they were when I was growing up. A festival did not feel like one if I was not with the closest members of the family…For a few years, all I did was call home, wish family and feel miserable that I missed all the fun. Slowly, things changed. Every year, we host a big Diwali party in our home now. We invite a bunch of our friends from all cultures. We dress gorgeously, share yummy food and my husband will narrate a bunch of mythological stories behind the festival. I still have the memories from my childhood, but Diwali has a new meaning for me today …one of including, embracing and sharing.

Over the years, this has been a wonderful lesson for me. Embracing and sharing my cultural  background at work and in life (with people from different cultural backgrounds) has actually worked to strengthen my own cultural identity and my relationships with people. Counterintuitive eh? Perhaps. But humor me here as I try my best to make a strong case that we would do best at work and life by embracing and sharing our cultural identities:

• Nobody is blind to our cultural differences:

  As much as we like to say that cultural differences do not affect what we think or how we interact with a person, we have to agree that we are not blind to them. So let us just give up on the hope that we will just blend in at all cost. Instead, let us learn when to ignore these differences and when to enjoy them. When to respect the differences and when to celebrate them. At work, HR makes rules for legal purposes. It is time to understand that rules that say “everyone should be treated equal” do not mean “everyone is created the same”. It is a suggestion to embrace our differences responsibly.

• We are curious creatures:

  I have always been curious about other cultures, their languages and festivals. I find it incredibly exciting to exchange notes with friends and coworkers about their customs and practices. I try to remember that most people I meet are curious, just like me. If they do not ask questions about my culture it is because they are either ashamed of their lack of knowledge (this is my reason most times) or they are scared to ask wrong questions. So ask questions and be curious. But be respectful. Most often, the other person is very interested in sharing and learning. This applies to the work environment as well.

• We are insecure and complex creatures:

  We all have our insecurities. Knowingly or otherwise, these insecurities manifest in strange behaviors - a nasty remark, a petty act etc. Single isolated behaviors from people do not indicate intolerance. In fact, they are not an indication of anything. Always give people the benefit of doubt and do not assume anything, ever. And if you assume someone did/said something because of your race or cultural background, then you are the one at loss. Read an interesting story demonstrating that on Evelyn’s blog AttractionMindMap. Making a big deal of isolated events only creates a lot of animosity at the workplace and could unnecessarily affect our careers. Understand that typically people experience a lot more insecurities at the workplace and learn to let go of isolated events. Believe me, it will only make your life better.

• As much as we want to belong, we value our individuality:

  We are strange creatures, to say the least. In isolation we seek community. And when in a community, we long to set ourselves apart from everyone else. Why not embrace our cultural differences and take pride in the fact that we can all get along wonderfully while learning and experiencing other cultures? This will really help in our end goal of being special while being a part of the community. Share your food. Sing your songs. Enhance the lives of your neighbors and coworkers. Give them a special experience and be proud of it.

• We have no other choice, really:

  If you are still not convinced and think you might want to continue to try to blend in, let me put another thought in your head. If you are trying your hardest to conceal any cultural differences that exist between your coworkers and you or your neighbors and you, I strongly believe your act is not working. You will only end up seeming fake, distant and disinterested in real interaction. If that is your choice go ahead and pick it, but I’d rather choose embracing my cultural background and sharing it.

There is nothing wrong in trying to blend in at our work places or in the community. Especially if you happen to be the kind of person who had a natural tendency to blend in and stay out of the spotlight. All I am saying is that there is a lot more to be gained by embracing our cultural differences and learning from each other. If you enjoy sharing and celebrating, please do continue to do that even at your work places. People never get in trouble for being themselves and being authentic (without hurting others) and our coworkers and neighbors are a lot more open and accepting than we would believe. And guess what, if people do behave petty, it reflects on them, not on you. And THAT is not worth losing out on a world of special experiences!

I talk from my experience and I am curious to hear what people think. Do you see issues with what I have said? Have you had experiences that conflict with my views? Feel free to agree/disagree and voice yourselves!

Some Link Love

This week I happen to be immersed in a very engaging Authentic Discovery Class being led by Tom Volkar. I am also a part of an exciting community building experiment that Tom has going. I encourage you to check it out and sign up if you find it interesting.

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This is Part 3 of the Series titled “The key to happiness and balance is right with you, just learn to use it”. In Part 1 of the series, I told you exactly WHY we need a framework and introduced you to the “thinkmaya framework” foundation.In this Part 2 of the series, I talked about HOW we prepare ourselves to be able to apply the framework successfully. In Part 3(here), I will, with the help of 3 thinkmaya readers, introduce the framework and discuss a few of it’s applications

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Learning to use the framework

In this post I will discuss how to apply the thinkmaya framework. Three thinkmaya readers have graciously shared their situations with us. After giving an overview of each of the steps in the process I follow it with how each of the three readers would possibly apply it to their lives and their situations.

Before I start, here are the situations as shared by Mare, Lance and Stacey in their own words: Read the rest of this entry »

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